For pregnancy, teenagers, parenting, adoption and after-abortion. Also screening your pregnancy and disability in your fetus.
Online counselling is popular now because it’s more private. Many of the following sites offer this.
The GP, family planning clinic and school nurse
The GP, family planning clinic and school nurse are there for you, but beware they may hurry you down the abortion route whether you have thought it over or not. (See Chapter 13 of the book ‘Teenage Pregnancy’.)
In Northern Ireland Love for Life helps young people value themselves, relationships and sex. Teens can text questions to a team of doctors about any aspect of sexual health or relationships: Telephone 02838 820555.
HELP FOR TEENAGE PARENTS
PARENTING HELP IN THE UK
Love for Life offers parents practical tips and support
Finances, housing, benefits and so on look at end of Chapter 8, ‘Parenting Explored’.Single parenting look at end of Chapter 8, ‘Parenting Explored’. HELP FOR PARENTS OF PREGNANT TEENAGERS
J. Jeffes, Unplanned Pregnancy: Talking with Teenagers
J. Jeffes, Unplanned Pregnancy: Talking with Teenagers (Hove: Lean Press, 2013). This short booklet is full of practical advice for parents of teenagers and worth reading before a problem pregnancy enters the family.
Adoption Matters have been helping children find their future for 70 years.
ASIST (Adoption Support in Society Today) started in Somerset in 1993 as a support group for families who had adopted children. ASIST works to support children, birth parents and adoptive parents. ASIST runs a national helpline and receives adoption enquiries from across the country. It is not involved in the actual adoption process but they will discuss the subject in confidence with anyone who wants to know more. The charity will also act as a ‘signpost’, referring callers to appropriate voluntary or professional organisations in their area where they can get practical help. You may wish to contact them before contacting social services which vary across the country. Helpline: 01823 282351.
Government website is a useful section for birth parents from the help site above.
HELP WITH DEBT
Debt IVA for debts over £5,000.
MENTAL HEALTH SUPPORT AFTER PREGNANCY LOSS FROM ABORTION OR MISCARRIAG
If you feel you cannot go on . . . if you have suicidal ideas . . .TELL SOMEONE YOU TRUST NOW.
Dial 111, the NHS doorway to urgent psychiatric help.
When you suffer the loss of something close to you the shock and grief can feel overwhelming. With emotional issues after abortion, it’s better to share your feelings with someone you can trust, such as your local family doctor or a local pastor. Talk it over with other women who have been through loss, and your partner if possible.
COPING WITH BEREAVEMENT AFTER PREGNANCY LOSS
If you feel anxious and depressed after stillbirth, pregnancy loss or abortion loss the following can also help:
Mental Health Foundation has its own list of help sites:
STORIES OF PEOPLE’S EXPERIENCES
Finding how other people felt and coped can be a real step to freeing you from isolation and low feelings. Perhaps sharing your own story can bring your feelings out as a step on the journey of healing.
HELP FOR FETUS DISABILITY AND PREGNANCY SCREENING ISSUES
ARC offers emotional support and non-directive counselling for people facing pain after hard pregnancy choices and provides a range of literature and information.
A Heartbreaking Choice is ‘lovingly dedicated to all who have made a heartbreaking choice’. It covers major and minor fetus problems. There are sections for spirituality and religious leaders, with stories of people coping with disability.
You can also contact your personal physician, GP and medical services.
FAITH-BASED SOURCES OF HELP
Pregnancy counselling services, for both before, during and after abortion, are available all over the UK. Some have no faith basis and others are run by Christians but are open to people of any faith or none. The same applies in North America, Israel and Australasia. This list points to the largest only:
Rachel’s Vineyard UK and Ireland is a safe place to renew and rebuild your life after abortion. The healing weekends offer you a supportive, confidential and non-judgemental environment where women and men can deal with painful post-abortion emotions.
Jewish pregnancy and post-abortion counselling services can be accessed using the website link below.
Call the local church minister, Iman or other spiritual helper or helpline by searching under local churches, mosques and places of worship.
Sikh pregnancy and post-abortion counselling is not easily found in the UK. Sikhs like their stillborn babies to be given respect in burial by cremation.
HELP IF YOU HAVE REGRETS AFTER ABORTION
If you still feel imprisoned by regrets, think of joining a small group on the award-winning Freedom in Christ course.
The Step by Step Support Programme is a course for recovery from any form of child loss. Run by Image in Manchester (charity number 1141832) it has been developed as a resource for Christian pregnancy centres in the UK, and mainly facilitates post-abortion support. However, many centres also support clients after miscarriage, stillbirth, child loss and those in prison separated from their children. For details of pregnancy and post-abortion counselling go to the website or contact firstname.lastname@example.org or call 0161 273 8090.
Faith based Services
Other faith-based counselling services are available in many major towns in the UK. Many GP surgeries have Christians or those of other faiths on the staff. Churches have ministers, hospitals and prisons have chaplains, mosques, synagogues and other places of worship will often supply advice and counsel that can be found by phone call or by searching the web.
Pregnancy counselling and practical help for mums and babies can be found beadchaim.
In the USA, Canada, Spain, Holland, Italy and France
Rachel’s Vineyard: toll-free national hotlines: 877 HOPE 4 ME (877 467 3463).
National Hotline for Abortion Recovery: 866 482 LIFE (866-482-5433).
After Abortion offers telephone and email advice both before and after abortion. Toll-free helpline: 1 866 482 5433.